Carl Lanore
One of e longest-running, largest studies in the world has a surprising secret. The one thing that is the greatest predictor of health span and life span. You can leverage this immediately. But do you have the courage to?
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[00:00:00] Starting with traditional music but there won't be any commercials on today's show. I had to show planned and it kind of fell through and I felt committed to do something today. There's been something that's been on my [00:01:00] mind for a long time and I kept saying I'm going to plant a show.
[00:01:02] I'm going to plan to show and today I decided. to just go ahead and do it myself instead of trying to find an expert guest to come on and talk about something that's pretty academic to talk about. I don't think I needed a scientist to discuss this today and it's really. It really is the. Unspoken contributor to health Span in life span, and you know, I'm getting emails from Life Extension Foundation to buy this supplement.
[00:01:35] I'm paying attention to this particular group about training style in a more efficient using peptides. I'm doing all this stuff. That some of its heroic some of its not I think to a lot of people using peptides on a regular basis as heroic. Most people think that using a small insulin syringe with a needle the size of an eyelash every morning is [00:02:00] excessive.
[00:02:00] Some people say it's the dark side. I don't think either of those are true, but there's something that no one is talking about and. we really don't need a lot of science, but there is science behind it. But again, no one really talks about it. And that's because we want to believe that the key to longevity and health are these tangible things that we can touch we can take we can manipulate and this can be manipulated but possibly one of the things that has the most profound effect on your health and your longevity is this particular thing.
[00:02:40] And by the end of the show, I'm not only going to reveal to you what it is. I'm going to reveal to you how easy it is for you to change it and give you some solid steps to do that. But I'm going to also make a promise to you that if you really do it if you commit to it and you do it your life will change that the circumstances in your life may not change.
[00:03:00] [00:03:00] you know if you missing a limb not going to grow back but your acceptance of your life will change and. The joy in your life will change and at the end of the day, that's really what it's all about. So let's start with this study since I really don't think we need a lot of science to support this notion, but let's start with the study that started in the 1930s and it was sponsored by Harvard School of Medicine back.
[00:03:31] Then it was called the grant study or the Crimson men's study and. Back at around 1938. I guess it was they started to take guys from Harvard and from other groups, but mostly from Harvard into the study and they wanted to follow them for a lifetime and see you know, how long did they live? What contributed to their life?
[00:03:55] What trends did we see? What trends didn't we sing? And [00:04:00] then later on the study opened up. I want to say in the 40s. The study opened up and became the grant Gluck study and then they started to bring men from around Boston into the study. And then later on the study expanded again and this time because Harvard was an all-male school back then so it was just guys the second tier of the study the Glock addition that was still just guys but then somewhere I want to say.
[00:04:34] Maybe in the 70s early 70s late 60s early 70s, they started to include men and their wives and so we started to get information about women as well. And they looked at they looked at everything that they could this actually is if not, the longest one of the longest largest longitudinal studies ever done and [00:05:00] Ben have been following people now for over 80 years.
[00:05:03] And they have complete really good information and blood work, you know being part of this group you had to make a commitment that you're going to do what you needed to do to support the study. In fact, two of the people that were entered into the study somewhere in the 50s with John F Kennedy jr.
[00:05:27] And the guy who used to run 60 Minutes Bill Bradley. So they had different Panic so they enroll these people when they were no bodies and then they their trajectory of their lives will look that and how did that contribute to longevity and aging and so on? And no matter what they teased out of this study that they were like look at.
[00:05:49] Oh, well this correlates this correlates. The one thing that had glaring evidence and still does today because this study is still going on. They're still bringing people into the study. It's an [00:06:00] amazing thing. It's now called the grant glueck study. I'm pretty sure but anyway. What the glaring commonality in the men and then the men and the women who appeared to be aging the best seemed not to have the disease states that others had seemed to have a really good quality of life and their perception of the quality of their life were people who they claimed had healthy relationships, you know good relationships.
[00:06:36] With a spouse or a large family or even a group of friends and they've even done TED talks about this part of the study, which it deserves to be talked about. But the problem is that when you talk to people about good relationships good relationships are like this this I don't know this amorphous shapeless thing that you really can't well, what is a good relationship is it one that [00:07:00] the other person is supportive of you is it one that the other person does everything you want them to do?
[00:07:04] Is it one that the person loves you? Is it the way the person towards? You know, this is. You know and I've always been somebody who tries to look for the lowest common denominator and everything and that's not always a good way to look at things and I know that but every now and then it applies and so when I start to look at what we consider good relationships, I started to focus on that mushy word that some of us don't even want to hear because it's so touchy-feely but love.
[00:07:36] and it's not just. Being in a relationship with someone loves you in my humble opinion. It's being in a relationship where you are compelled to love. Unrestrained that other person and whatever they do to make you feel that way. Well, that's your love language, right? Okay, [00:08:00] great. Now I'm not talking about that.
[00:08:02] But what I am talking about is. All of these studies that looked at these men and all the different extrapolations that they've done from this particular body of research shows healthy relationships and I say that's really not what it is. It's not healthy relationships. It's how frequently you actually experience loving someone else or something else could be a dog.
[00:08:28] so. Actually talked about this on my recent interview with Tom bill you when I did hell Theory but in an effort to keep the interview succinctly and under 40 minutes, they had to edit this part out and. I really think that this message when we talk about longevity we talk about health we talk about health span we talk about drugs.
[00:08:52] We talk about supplements. We talk about diets we talk about training we talk about activity. We talk about the quality of sleep. We talk about getting in the [00:09:00] Sun. And we do talk about sex if I'm the one that's doing the talk about it because there is a direct linkage to the higher degree of sexuality and Longevity and it also seems to confer some protective benefits to certain diseases of modernity so we can't discount that but I really think that even when we talk about sex, we know from research that for instance blood pressure goes down.
[00:09:30] After two people make love but it doesn't go down after someone self stimulates. And so. we know that a lot of the research done on sex and sexuality take into account the level of emotion between the partners and whether or not that confers a greater sense of satisfaction and lovemaking and it does the more connected you are to somebody the deeper.
[00:09:59] The faster you [00:10:00] go when you are being intimate with them. And as a result of that we know that these feelings seem to line up they seem to correlate with Health and Longevity and we look at this study here the grant Gluck study and we see that guys and the gals who had the they said that they have lots of great relationships.
[00:10:26] They seem to live the longest even if you no one's not a vegetarian and one is and it's like it's like wait a minute, you know, all this other stuff seems to go out the window when we just look at this one thing the problem with this is that science has a hard time talking about this stuff just as most of us do for some.
[00:10:43] Openly talking about love either relegates you to being like, you know Stoned Out hippie, you know tree hugger or a potential, you know, I don't know stalker, you know, we don't talk about love openly as [00:11:00] comfortable as we talk about anything else. We talk about trans gender sexuality all day long, but love seems to be one of those words that we kind of were cautious around it.
[00:11:09] We don't say it a lot. That's the problem. So I would argue that the people in the grant cluck study that claimed that they had great relationships. We actually really if you started to ask them questions about well, what is great relationship mean to you they have people in their lives that they love and I said this to Tom Bill UI says Tom, you know, we were sitting across the Isis.
[00:11:34] I can tell you. I love you and you may think wow, that's really nice. That's great. But you really can't feel it. And he looked at me and I says, you know when you love somebody and you think about them and you feel that love your heart starts to pick up your body temperature may go up you may have changes in skin.
[00:11:53] You may get goosebumps. You become excited. You're feeling that love. I [00:12:00] mean when you when you say oh, I you know, I feel everybody's love for me. You do not that's a lie. You're just trying to say I know that you love me. I want to thank you for that. It's working. I want you to know that it's working, but you can't feel that.
[00:12:12] I mean if you could feel that imagine Mother Teresa would have been crushed by the weight of all the love that she felt all day long. She went available clean toilets and India I mean, but when you love somebody you feel it you feel it. However, it is that you feel it. You actually feel it in your body.
[00:12:29] It changes you physically. Even if it's just a smile that comes on your face. It just changed you physically you feel it and I would suggest that it's the people who have the largest circle of people. They love freely that seem to have this amazing carry over. When they say, oh, I have great relationships, you know, I would argue that the more [00:13:00] freely you love the more opportunities.
[00:13:02] You have to feel that the more often you fire hormones like oxytocin and who knows what else? I mean nobody's really studying a deep enough. But clearly it's working. It's doing something. And so I would argue that when we hear people talk about their relationships. We're really talking about the quality of their opportunities to love that other person or their family their children their, you know, fiance, you know, I got to be honest with you.
[00:13:34] I didn't realize this myself until I met Eliza because I always felt I think now that I look back that I held back something in relationships in the past. And maybe it was because I got hurt like most of us, you know, first relationship always ends up in pain. And so you think to yourself. Well, that's it.
[00:13:52] I'm never going to do this again, but then you get to be an adult and you think I'm not still thinking that way but then when you observe your behavior from 30,000 [00:14:00] feet you go. Oh, no wonder why that relationship didn't work. I really. Didn't really want it to work maybe. But when I met Eliza I learned how to be more Reckless and unfettered about loving and then it dawned on me.
[00:14:18] Like wow, I feel so good. It's like a drug. I feel so good when I feel that way and maybe I need to feel that way more often and maybe I need to start cutting myself some slack and. Trying to stereotype myself as somebody if I say I love you to somebody and I really mean it. It's pays me off too.
[00:14:36] So I may be doing it selfishly. But you know, it's working now. Obviously you got to be with somebody that you were inspired to love to that degree. And that usually requires somebody who loves you back to some degree and speaks your love language and makes you happy too.
[00:14:57] This is something that you could change right now. [00:15:00] Like we always hear about things. Well, you could start meditating right now, you know, just close your eyes 20 more. I can't close my eyes for 20 minutes. I'm driving right now, but you know what I can imagine think about someone who I really love and think about them and you'll feel something and the more you cultivate it the faster you start to feel it in the deeper.
[00:15:18] You start to feel it. So the more frequently you think about people you love. you actually have. An ability to feel that faster and deeper as time goes on if you shut people out that you love if you ignore that If you deny it, you're just hurting yourself you end up being that old woman who never felt love anybody.
[00:15:39] And now when the baseball comes over the fence, you know, she grabs it from the kids. It says now, you're not getting your baseball back you become stingy if you're stingy with love you're going to be stingy in life. At least this is my belief. Okay, right. Now you're listening and you're going call.
[00:15:53] You've lost it. This is like so far away from what we are all about in the Superhuman Nation, I would [00:16:00] argue. No that's not true. Because I don't ignore anything that is going to benefit My Health and Longevity nothing. It's all if it really works and it does really work when you think about.
[00:16:14] Because we see people who seem to be openly loving to people and they just are wonderful people to be around. They attract people. They people feel strongly about them as well. But more importantly they just seem to be happier with their lives. They have all these opportunities to feel Joy if you are severely depressed right now and you're laying in a bed just humor me just humor me and just try this close your eyes.
[00:16:40] Think of a child think of a spouse think of a parent think of a favorite uncle think of a close friend in school. Think of somebody that you have actually felt love for. and just close your eyes and think about them for a little while. I mean, even if the [00:17:00] seismic shift in your depression is a hair it's still showing that it works.
[00:17:13] And that is the key. That's the key. So this is the exercise everyone can do it and you can do it frequently throughout the day. It doesn't take a lot of planning. But that is too from time to time actively and consciously think of somebody you love. And think about how you love them think about how it feels and you'll feel it.
[00:17:37] You know it you feel that all the time when you think about them and you're not trying to exercise this reaction. So just do the same thing. Just think of that person that you love. And it will uplift the way you feel it will uplift the way you feel about your life. You will be honing a really good habit of feeling joy and love [00:18:00] quickly.
[00:18:02] And according to research from the grant glueck study. These people live the longest some of them are in their 90's now in the in the group that seemed to have the strongest sense and the largest group of relationships. These guys are in their 90's now and I'm sure some of their wives too. So that's my message today.
[00:18:30] And you know what you read books about the mitochondria you read books about different training methods. When's the last time you read a book about love? Seriously? You don't have the time to read a book about love. We have a sponsor called http://blinkist.om/superhuman
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[00:19:09] But really when have you ever cultivated? Anything to do with love in your life and I don't mean oh, I'm out there at the bars looking for love. Not what I'm talking about. You know that you're just joking. But when is the last time you put a little effort into actually understanding this thing this this great gift that we have and I'm sure other animals have it to believe it or not.
[00:19:36] This is not exclusively human. but the social construct we put on openly loving and the potential embarrassment of being that way or you know, this person's a jerk or you know, I mean, that's. That's a social construct that we have created that is actually keeping us from doing something that [00:20:00] we are innately designed to do.
[00:20:05] I'm sure dear. Don't go. I hate that that buck over there because you know, no. So there you go. I hope I delivered something worthwhile short show. No commercials as promised. And if you think I'm off base, let me know and definitely start trying this technique. Just try to think of somebody from time to time that you're crazy about and love recklessly.
[00:20:35] Don't worry about getting your heart broken. That doesn't matter when you love somebody you're the one being rewarded by the action of you loving so things don't work out don't feel bad. You still got something good out of it. You still got the opportunity to love somebody? And I'm not stoned anybody who's watching the shows good.
[00:20:56] It's called Stone what's going on? No, this is really something I [00:21:00] believe in strongly. I think that more people need to explore this in their lives and don't wait too long because none of us are getting younger by that's all I have to say today. I hope you enjoyed it. And tomorrow we will have the blueprint Power Hour with Coach Rob Regish.
[00:21:15] So tune in then thank you for listening today.
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