Aaron Singerman

Father, Husband, Founder of Redcon1... Read his BIO here>

BEST OF: Of Fathers and Sons - Aaron Singerman
(Commercial free, from original Episode #2618, Nov 2020)

[00:00:21]   Who was Aaron’s greatest influences as a young boy?

• His father influenced him in a way to be different.
• Arnold Schwarzenegger was an inspiration as far as health and fitness and bodybuilding goes.
• His 92-year-old grandfather, “Papa Jack”.
  • A fascinating story ensues about his 2 grandfathers and a gold Rolex.

[00:05:47]   Does Aaron think discipline is different for boys vs girls?

• Not opposed to corporal punishment.
• A well timed, well thought through and non-aggressive strike makes a huge impact.
• It can never be out of anger or emotion.
• Also inform the child of what you are about to do.
  • Aaron shares such a memory he had with his son.

[00:08:00]   Does Aaron think in retrospect that had his parents employed his application of raising children, he would have had a different outcome early on?

• 100%. Yes
• His parents figured it out as they were going along.
• Although they were great parents, they were not progressive in terms of their thinking on raising children.
• They were doing things the way that they were told to do it.
• He reiterates that he experienced a lot of tragedy and also a lot of great things, but wouldn’t change any of it, as it made him the person he is today.

[00:09:51]   Does Aaron have any non-negotiable rules?

• No exceptions to breaking the law.

[00:11:15]   What are the most important qualities that young boys have to carry through as they become older?

• Quitting is never an option, while staying realistic and not bashing your head against a brick wall.
• Higher levels of success require more sacrifice and hard work.

[00:13:30]   Does Aaron talk to his boys about aggression, and when to use it?

• Physicality is important for boys, and he is a big proponent for letting them fight it out in a healthy and controlled manner.
• They are supposed to test boundaries and limits.
• We also try and re-enforce recognition to how special they are and build self-confidence that way.
• Zero tolerance for bullies, but Aaron would not allow his boys to be pushed and not reciprocate.
• If you have a sense of physical confidence and know that you can handle yourself, you generally get into less altercations to begin with.

[00:18:53]   Will Aaron consent to his kids joining the physical culture?

• They already enjoy training in the gym.
• He would encourage them to exercise and be healthy but wouldn’t necessarily want them to be competitive professional body builders unless they really want to.

[00:22:20]   Does Aaron allow his boys latitude to disagree with him?

• They are still very young, so not at this moment.
• As they get older, they would be encouraged to have healthy debate as long as it is in a respectful manner.

[00:24:00]   How will Aaron handle the rebellion that comes with puberty?

• Because Aaron handles parenting in such a different way than most other parents do, he cannot ever see his boys rebelling in the true sense of the word.
• Aaron would take their feelings and thought process into consideration if they felt the need to oppose him.

[00:28:08]   A compelling explanation by Aaron on emotion and how to handle it, follows.

[00:35:05]   Aaron eludes that he is excited about bringing out a book, his life story, to help and encourage people.

When you're gone, how do you want your boys to finish this sentence? My dad was…

“My dad was somebody who loved me, cared about me, did everything that he could do to improve and better my life and my chances while not spoiling me or giving me more than I needed, and created the kind of discipline that's required to excel at a life that's not easy.”